So , we aren't at the center of God's affections, and to the degree that we are, it's for his glory - so that he might be glorified as a merciful, patient, gracious God. How does that sit with you? For natural man, that's insanity, it's egomaniacal. Only the heart awakened by the Spirit to the supreme worth of God's glory can be God centered and embrace God's self-centeredness... and then only in small increments. Oh, for the day when this won't be controversial, but the greatest statement of joy we can make!
"God's being, with all the fullness of its holy attributes, is the only ultimate object of his will. God wills himself in all that he wills. God wants to maintain all his attributes in all their glory. He is the final or highest goal of all that he does. God seeks and establishes his own glory in all that he does....He seeks his glory. He seeks it and seeking it, sees to it that his purpose in seeking it is accomplished. No creature can detract from his glory; all creatures, willingly or unwillingly, add to his glory..."